Losing a loved one can be devastating. You may experience a range of emotions shortly after his/her passing such as sadness, anger, loss, guilt, and disappointment. While it may be easy for these feelings to get the best of you, it may still be your responsibility to be part of the group that organizes the funeral service.
This can include meeting with a funeral home to make decisions regarding the preparation of the body, the service itself, flowers, and reception arrangements.
When emotions run high it can be easy to be forgetful or fail to put effort into something that needs attention. You also want to plan a service that represents the deceased’s life and personality perfectly. Below are four factors to consider when planning a funeral service for your loved one.
1. Funeral provider
Like any other type of industry, there are some businesses that do better than others and funeral providers are no different. Some are better in terms of compassion, cost, service options, and cleanliness. Because your loved one deserves the best funeral service possible, you definitely want to look into the reputation of the funeral home that you are considering.
To determine the funeral provider that can best meet yours and your family’s needs during this difficult time as well as plan a lovely and meaningful service, check in with extended family and friends. Ask if they have ever had to make funeral arrangements, who they hired, and if they were satisfied with them. This will give you an idea who you can turn to and who you should stay away from.
Religion is extremely important to many people around the world. It guides them in how they live their lives. The beliefs of your loved one should be honoured even after their death. You can do this by arranging a funeral service that keeps the tenets of their religion in mind.
Whether your loved one was Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, or any other religion in the world, you must keep this in mind when planning his/her funeral service. Your main objective is planning a service that best represents his/her life, ideals, and beliefs and this cannot happen if you fail to incorporate their religion or base your decisions on the wrong one. Besides, doing so may make it easier for you as his/her religion may limit the options of what kind of service should and can take place.
3. Wishes of the deceased
If the death of your loved one was unexpected or if they were younger, he/she may not have left a will providing instructions on what type of funeral is desired. However, if a will does exist, it is crucial that you follow it to the letter.
The wishes of the deceased could include what type of funeral he/she wants, whether cremation or burial is preferred, and who will be officiants and pall-bearers. The will left by the deceased will be helpful in guiding you make difficult yet important decisions. Abiding by it will allow you to respect the wishes of your loved one by arranging for a funeral exactly how they wanted.
4. Type of funeral
Funerals are not all the same. As mentioned, religion and the wishes of the deceased can play important roles by guiding you in making decisions but if these factors are not present you have choices to make regarding what type of funeral your loved one would want and which option best represents them.
There are three common choices when it comes to funerals in the Western world. One involves having a visitation, funeral, and burial or cremation. Another option consists of a funeral or graveside service and then a burial or cremation. The third option is a cremation with an optional service sometime afterwards. While all three of these options can offer a beautiful service, you need to take your time and consult with other family members to determine which one is suitable.